Monday, November 17, 2014

Coming Soon, to a Blog Near You

There really was a ceremony....
I just don't have time currently, here in the 13th week of the semester, to post about it.

But I will.
I promise.


Thursday, November 6, 2014

My Big Brothers

I asked Pete, my dad's best friend, to walk me down the aisle at our wedding. 
This might have surprised some people.
After all, I could have asked Bill, my oldest brother, to do it.
 I could have even asked both of my big brothers to do it.
But they're my brothers. 
While it felt completely right to ask Pete, there came a point that I wondered if I'd possibly hurt my family by not asking my brothers.
I called Bill and Jim, one at a time, and told them that I'd asked Pete.
And they were both so supportive. And said they completely approved.
After all, they're my brothers, they said. Not our dad.
I don't know what I'd do without them.
They are really, really good men...sons...husbands...fathers...brothers.
 I'm quite certain my dad would approve.

Wednesday, November 5, 2014


My name has been legally changed.
We got the marriage certificate a couple weeks ago, and so I've begun the process of changing all of my -- and our -- formal records over. So far, I've taken care of the social security card and today, the driver's license. This is pretty much the busiest time of the Fall semester, so it's a bit challenging to fit in these little name-changing excursions around town, but it's kind of fun, too. 

Each time I get a new document, I look at it a a little kid or something. 
I keep checking my social security card to make sure it's really changed.

I love saying Reid-Bevington, too...but sometimes I forget. 
I've been trying to say it when I introduce myself to someone new, but when there's someone nearby who knows me, but doesn't know I got married -- at work, for instance -- it's a little awkward. 

And it's a long last name. Especially when you're used to a four-letter last name. A few people told me that I'd regret it...that it's a big pain on forms and explaining to people. I honestly don't think that day will come. I could be wrong. But I don't think so.

And some of my students have already found a way to deal with the length...the students on the JCAST Student Leadership Council that I advise are calling me "Dr. R-B." They get a kick out of it.
I do, too.

It's a little awkward at this point, yes...but I even love it with the awkwardness. I love that I have my dad's -- and my first family's -- name. And Bob's -- and his family's -- name. Together.  

And Bob is totally supportive of my keeping my family's name. 
I think he's proud that I have both names.
Yup. I like it. 

Tuesday, November 4, 2014

And Now...the Dress

Hair done...
The girls donned their dresses.
And settled in to wait for me to get dressed. 
Sue had been patiently waiting all morning to get some posed pictures when we were all finished dressing, so while I got ready. she took some of the girls.

I love these stairs. Used to play on them growing up -- sliding down on my belly, seeing how many I could skip by jumping over the bottom ones on the way down, trying to get Slinkies to "walk" down them (never did get those darned things to work like they did in the commercials) -- so it's pretty cool to see my gorgeous nieces on them like this.

Outside on the deck, too. Cathy found the dresses online, and made and added the brown sashes.
I think this might have been what the girls loved most about them.
And then Michelle joined...cousins!
Can't beat those smiles.
And, make-up and hair complete (thank you, Faith!), I was finally ready to put on the dress.
Well, with some help. And a bit of an audience, as the girls were all there.

Michelle had learned to lace the bodice when I went for my final fitting.
It took some skill, I think.

Such concentration.
Cathy checked the handiwork.
And then my phone rang...and it was Bob....
....and he was having stomach troubles because he was so nervous...and then he told me he was just kidding. Not. Funny. But, whew!

Back to work.
I wanted Mom to put my necklace on, but she wouldn't let Sue take pictures of her doing that -- only from the back. My silly mom. How can she not know she's gorgeous?

So incredibly special having this time with her.
Finally, the boots.
 Gotta love the boots. And gotta love Mom's smile. (Thanks for sneaking a picture, Sue!)
 And we were ready.

Monday, November 3, 2014

The Girly Stuff

Nobody was more surprised than me by how much I loved the "girly stuff" associated with the wedding.

I got a taste for how much I was going to love it when Michelle and I went wedding dress shopping. 
And, honestly, it blindsided me the morning of the wedding. 

But. let me back up a little...I think that, when compared to most weddings, ours was pretty low-key. And we wanted it that way. We wanted it to be personal and true-to-who-we-are, individually and as a couple. We wanted the prep and the actual festivities to be low-stress, and basically just wanted to throw a party for family and friends, and celebrate our new beginnings as husband and wife surrounded by all the people we love. And, with the exception of some stressful moments at the rehearsal BBQ when we realized we were NOT READY at all to feed and entertain so many people, the prep was actually quite fun.

If I stressed about anything, I was a little stressed about the hair-and-make-up part. I like to try to look good, yes, but it's gotta really be me. No extensions. No curls. the likes of which have never before bounced around on my head. And no colors on my face that would make Bob wonder what I'd been eating when I was getting ready to walk down the aisle to him.

Michelle and I talked a little about what I'd do with my hair, and she had some ideas for the clip I bought for it. We were supposed to practice with some make-up and the hair styling before we headed over to Bridgeport for the wedding...but life is busy, yes?, and we just didn't get around to it. 
But then it all fell into place, as Missy had arranged for Faith Hysell -- who I didn't even know at that point -- to come up to Mom's house the morning of the wedding and do everyone's hair and make-up. Have you heard me refer to her yet as a miracle worker? Well, she is. 

I really was blindsided by how much fun all the girly-getting-ready and estrogen-chaos was. 

Before I even showered, Faith practiced with my hair. to figure out what she could do with the clip, and this is what she "threw together." 
Yup. I was gonna like this.

So she began doing the girls' hair, one-niece-at-a-time. while I looked on, drank a latte picked up and delivered by sis-in-law Cathy, ate bacon and eggs served up by my big brother, Bill, and sipped on a Mimosa. Seriously. Who knew how great it would feel to be so pampered?

Lacey had all her curls in place first.
Emma got worked on. too. This is the girl who hadn't wanted her ears pierced - ever! - but suddenly asked to have them pierced for the wedding. And was a total trooper through the process.
And softball-star Alyssa. busily playing a game while Aunt Missy took over at the curling iron.
And my lovely oldest niece, Abbey, giggling when having her photo shot while Mom Cathy was putting flowers in her hair, but upright and confident-as-all-get-out when she did the reading at the ceremony in front of 30+ people a few hours later.
Michelle's a little more talented than the rest of us., and when she and Jesse arrived at the house, her hair was already beautifully curled. (I think, anyway...she could have curled it at the house, too, or Faith could have...I was drinking a Mimosa, remember?)
There were moments when you could even see this when you walked into Mom's kitchen.
And then, finally showered and blow-dried. it was my turn. Thankfully, yes, Faith did my make-up. too -- after my hair.
No, I have no idea how she did this. But I really liked it.
And while I was getting tended to, the girls opened the presents I got them...
Each got a necklace to wear in the wedding, and a little extra goodie. Abbs got a Pop! figure of Jack, from "The Nightmare Before Christmas."
Lacey got a little stuffed Halloween Hello Kitty.

Emma got a "Duck Dynasty" bobblehead -- that talks. I think it was Uncle Si.

And Alyssa got a little "voo-doo" doll that is supposed to help get rid of nervousness.

Even grown-up Michelle got a little goodie -- I thought this was fitting in our family.
Eventually, we all looked like this...
...but there's a little more to the story.
And that part is for another day.